A Clean House

Its amazing how busy we become in our everyday lives. We wake up, go to work or do our chores, have dinner, go to sleep, and wake up to repeat it all over again. There are often times where it all blurs together and we forget that there is so much life to live in between the daily grind. As much as we wold like to throw our chores to the wind and say “oh I’ll clean tomorrow; I want to live for today!”. The truth of the matter is, if we do not keep up with our daily lives, that is when it all blurs together. For example, if instead of doing a little bit of cleaning through out the week, by the time the weekend gets here your house is so cluttered that it will take the whole two days to get it put back together.

I struggle with this on the daily. Right now, as I’m sitting here writing this, I know I have a pile of dishes that need to be taken care of. Do I feel like cleaning as of this moment? No, that is why I am procrastinating and writing for you instead. Would I be able to enjoy my hobby more if I just busted it out real quick ? Yes, I know I would, because it wouldn’t be looming in the background and my mind would be at peace. So why as humans do we choose to put off such simple little tasks that in the end didn’t cost much time or effort to accomplish?

This is where our lifestyle comes in handy. My husband leads by example, he tries to maintain a neat and orderly space in our home and so I am expected to do the same. Seeing as I am the one who is home the most and as the lady of the household, it is my job to be sure that the house stays organized. My husband provides so much for my family and this is my contribution. When the house is clean we all feel better.

Obviously there are days where the chores don’t get done and most days my husband agrees with my reasonings as to why. But, there are those days where he does not and he believes that I was being lazy and 99% of the time he is correct. By him calling me out on it I am able to come face to face with reality. I am unable to sit there and lie to myself to allow more procrastination. Instead, I am forced to face the truth. This creates a drive in me. I submitted to him. I gave myself to him and so I want to give the best of myself.

On the days that I don’t give the best of myself I receive a “punishment”. This could be anything from being left to clean in silence, giving him a foot massage, giving a blowjob until he says stop, receiving a spanking, etc. Our range of what we like to do when a situation arises is vast and it changes often. We both acknowledge when a punishment is needed and it is carried out in a safe, loving, and trusting environment. Depending on the nature of the punishment it is usually received at night. When the house is quiet. We pull the blinds, lock the doors, and create a secret and sacred space that only the two of us share together.


Our Lifestyle

I don’t talk about our lifestyle to anyone. You could walk past me in the grocery store and have no idea that when I get home I could get a spanking, because I forgot the one thing he asked for. You could sit next to us in restaurant and never know that I (a grown woman) was getting a lecture on my lack of obedience and how I need to do a better job at listening. You could be standing next to us in line at the movie theater and never know that I just finished blowing him in the car before we walked in, because he needed it. We practice what many refer to as a Dom/sub marriage, however, we would rather not put a label on it so we simply call it “our lifestyle”.

Although Dom/sub is a great way to explain our lifestyle and yes there are a lot of similarities, it has unfortunately developed a very interesting stigma. No we do not have crazy orgies. No my husband is not an abusive psycho. No it is not all about the sex. And above all things, yes, I have my free will. I submit to him which means that I willfully give myself to him. I believe in what we do and I have faith that the way we live is for the best interest of the family.

The basics are simple: my husband takes the lead. He makes the decisions and I discuss any decisions of mine to be made with him. He has expectations and I am expected to do my best to meet them. If I am unable to do so then there is a consequence. The benefits for our relationship since we adopted this lifestyle have been unbelievable! Our communication is completely in synch. He is continuously keeping me informed on what he needs me to do to be a good wife and I am always listening for ways to improve. Our house is a smooth running operation even on the most hectic of days. Yes, the sex has never been better. Also I have noticed that we don’t fight with each other the way we used to. I believe that the spankings help us both move forward from whatever the argument was. The simple guidelines that are set forth by the both of us is what keeps our home happy.

My hopes for this blog is that it will inspire those of you who want the same for your household. I hope to enlighten those who have a sinful view of the gender specific lifestyle. While sharing my day to day life with you I hope you will come to see that I am not a slave, but a devoted wife.